The
Buzzfeed article was titled “This Man Invited People To A “BBQ Not
Orgy” On Grindr And It Was Surprisingly Heartwarming.” It’s about how
Chris Bowman, a 61 year old man from Apex, North Carolina has been hosting an
annual summer BBQ. He advertises this BBQ through the gay dating/hookup app,
Grindr. It’s about how the event is surprisingly sweet and Bowman, who is a
recovered alcoholic, wants to give back to the community and bring people
together.
TL;DR
Chris is a registered sex offender with a history of pedophilia and preying on
young people. His ‘not an orgy’ and community talk is a gaslighting tactic to
groom young people into having sex with him. Buzzfeed, Vice, and other social
media outlets giving his event a platform endangers LGBT youth.
A
group of four of us (J, M, S, and A) attended the BBQ in the summer of 2017. J received
an invite similar to the one shown in the Buzzfeed article over Grindr, and we’re
young and dumb so we decided what the hell, let’s go. We rolled up and saw a fire
truck and ambulance already there. He’d invited the local fire department and
EMS to attend the BBQ. The food was admittedly very good, and the crowd was a
strange mix of after-church and from Grindr. Most of the other folks at the BBQ
seemed fine and kind. Buzzfeed got that right. Here is what they left out:
More
information about his charges & appeal: Click Here
1997:
Chris is giving Daniel, a 14 yo boy, a golf lesson. He locks the doors to the
store and turns off the lights. He comes up behind Daniel under the impression
of adjusting the child’s technique. He reaches down into Daniel’s underwear and
molests him.
1998:
Chris’s daughter has two friends over for a slumber party. They are sisters.
When everyone is asleep, Jessica, a 15 yo girl, is walking down the stairs of
his multi-level house. Chris approaches, pulls down her shorts, and performs
oral sex on her. He stops when Jessica’s sister stumbles upon the scene.
2005:
Chris provides his house as a location for two friends, a 24 yo and 18 yo, to
have sex with their underage girlfriends, 14 yo and 15 yo.
He
appealed his 2005 convictions that testimony from 1997 & 98 was inadmissible
in the determination of guilt phase of his trial.
THE BBQ
Chris
knew who we were and immediately inserted himself into our group. We figured,
yeah we’ll talk with him a while—he gave us all this food, so we kind of have
to (!!THIS IS HIS STRATEGY!!). Anyway, we listened to him talk about orgies,
sex, golf, and drugs in Europe for about an hour. Topics he hit:
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Orgies he’d attended in downtown Paris where you
circled the arc de triumph in your car until forming a chain of other searching
cars that would eventually peel off into a warehouse or somewhere to initiate
the orgy. It’s cool you, should totally try it sometime! OKAY.
-
He talked a lot about how his favorite drug to use was
Black Beauty
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He talked a lot about how good the golfing was in
Scotland (He molested a 14 yo boy in 1997 while teaching a golf lesson!)
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He spent a lot of time trying to convince us to
attend the “BBQ After Dark”
The
heat was incredible that day and we were starting to get tired of his weird sex
talk. Chris saw this and asked J what was wrong. J told him it was just kind of
hot. Chris followed up by inviting J to go on and take his shirt off. J said
no, he was fine. Chris said, “Oh no, come on! Take your shirt off! I’ll take my
shirt off!” J ignored it. We were all uncomfortable. Throughout the ENTIRE
event, Chris constantly reminded us about the after dark portion of the BBQ,
which we were all very invited to. We had no plans of going, but kept our
refusals soft and polite out of respect, because again, the BBQ is a tactic to
make you treat him kinder and feel bad about thinking he’s creepy.
THE NEXT DAY
This
was when the solicitations started. For the next year and a half until J
deleted his Grindr last fall, Chris continued to send J messages trying to move
things forward. He also tried to pick up A and S through J’s Grindr. He’s
talked about how he’s really excited about the buzz the event has been getting
and how he’s hoping the event will grow and grow. J hasn’t responded to the
messages that have kept coming for over a year. Attached are a few screenshots.
CONCLUSION
We
tried to contact Buzzfeed after the article was first published about how they
had misrepresented the nature of the event. When they didn’t respond, we didn’t
think it mattered too much. Maybe we were being too critical? The food was good…
However, now that we are aware of Chris’s history of pedophilia, we want to
make sure anyone who decides to attend knows what to expect.
I really would like anyone who’s reblogged the original version of the post to reblog this one. The original one (with over 300k notes) has too many variations of this story. NO ONE should attend this man’s bbq. He’s a pedophile that grooms young boys on grindr and at his “Pure” BBQ. The evidence is all here.
Tiny dirty stray kitten hanging out at the bottom of our stairs since yesterday. There are a lot of self-reliant ferals around our apartment, but this little thing was dirty & covered in burrs. We gave it some chicken but couldn’t catch it. I think it may have wandered over from the outdoor cat hoarder colony down the street; that house is awful & we saw kittens there last week.
This morning the downstairs neighbor managed to grab it for us, and I put it on this cozy towel & started combing and picking the burrs & sticks out of its fur. It calmed down immediately and has been chilling here with me in the kitchen ever since. Got a vet appointment in an hour to get my little buddy cleaned up & checked out. I hope it isn’t too sick; I think it might have a cold.
If we can, we are probably going to keep her.
What a difference a day makes! Took this little guy to the vet, got the fleas and dirt washed off him, got some antibiotics for a slight cold, but he is otherwise fine. Kneading and purring up a storm, eating a lot and being heart-crushingly adorable.
We have named this glorious creature Nux.
A little over a month later and Nux is growing into a very long and floppy shoulder cat!
Oh my god!!!!
i’m so happy for this cat i hope nux knows im proud of him
I still think that my favorite urban legend/folklore fact is that there are certain areas in New Orleans where you cannot get a taxi late at night not because it isn’t safe, but because taxi companies have had recurring problems of picking up ghosts in those areas who are not aware that they are dead and disappearing from the cab before reaching the destination and therefore stiffing the driver on the fare causing a loss for the company.
Whenever Hagrid finally decides to retire as Care of Magical Creatures professor you can bet your last knut that Charlie Weasley flies back to England the following week excitedly waving his resume and recommendation letters from no less than two Scamanders and the Minister of Magic, Hermione Granger.
I’m pretty sure he would also have recommendation letters from Rubeus Hagrid, the retiring professor, Harry Potter, the Boy Who Lived and a very confusing one from Puddlemere United player, Oliver Wood, saying that he was one of the best Seekers he had ever seen.
Not to mention the fact that he flies back to England not on a broomstick or any other normal form of transportation, but landing on the Hogwarts grounds on the back of the largest dragon anyone has ever seen.
Reblogging again for that last addition.
Charlie: *glides in on a dragon* HELLO HIRE ME
Everyone: What the fuck
Ron: (in the background, mortified) this is normal
can we just talk about the time that Lupin was recovering from a full moon and Snape taught the DADA class and made all the students write essays on how to kill werewolves for Lupin to read when he got back I hate Snape so much it’s not funny
Lupin gets back and he feels like crap and suddenly his best friend’s son is writing an essay about how to kill him like that is so fucked up
Bear in mind that an ex-Death Eater does this tosomeone who was in the Order, risked his life fighting against said Death Eaters and lost his best friends to the Death Eater’s genocidal leader, for the sole purpose of screwing him over, and as far as we know he experiences no consequences whatsoever for doing so.
And if that wasn’t enough, he made them write those essays hoping some of them would realize Lupin’s a werewolf. And one did, but Hermione is a fucking DECENT HUMAN BEING and said nothing. Apparently the ‘insufferable know-it-all' can keep her mouth closed, when it’s for something important. Just like Snape didn’t do at the end of the book.
I’m getting mad, so here’s something I’ve realized while reading The Order of the Phoenix again. (Please keep in mind that my books are in Italian and some concepts might be hard to explain, I apologize for my English mistakes)
In chapter 14, when The Trio talked with Sirius, he said that two years before Dolores Umbridge had written a law against werewolves that made it almost impossible for Lupin to find a job.
Now ask yourself this question. Why two years?
What had happened two years before? During Harry’s third year? Oh, right. The Magical World had discovered that one of Hogwarts’ teachers (someone who was in constant conctat with their children) was a werewolf. Does that ring any bell?
But that’s not all! If we take a look at chapter 15, in the Daily Prophet article we can see a familiar name: Remus Lupin.
In a newspaper. Where everyone can read it. “The werewolf Remus Lupin”. No wonder he couldn’t find a job! And it’s not the first time the Daily Prophet has written about him, as it’s stated in the article itself. There must have been a huge scandal when it had all come out.
So basically, when Snape decided he couldn’t bear not having what he wanted (for example, SIRIUS BLACK GETTING KISSED BY A DEMENTOR) and spilled the secret, he didn’t only tell the whole school. He didn’t only tell the kids’ parents. The told the whole Magical World.
He told the whole Magical World that a man who had kept his condition secret all his life was a werewolf.
And the Magical World responded with a law against werewolves.
So, basically, Snape didn’t only ruin Remus Lupin’s life. He ruined the life of every single werewolf in the UK.
I’m a lesbian and somehow I manage to walk down the street and not ogle women I find attractive, or cat call or degrade them, or touch them without permission, or interrupt their daily lives, it’s almost as if I’m treating them like human beings despite my attraction to them. What an insane concept.
omg same
We were arguing about dress code in a meeting at work. And while my department knows I’m queer the other departments did not. As people (men) were saying that women showing skin and wearing tight clothes was distracting. I spoke up finally and said.
“I’m attracted to women.”
Everyone turned and looked at me and I was like “uhhh” so I finished.
“I’m attracted to women and I can still do my job. Regardless of what someone in my class is wearing. I can still teach. So why can’t you?”
My name is Benji, but if you want to get serious you can call me Brenda.
My blog is random, no set theme.
I love sports. Like all sports. (I'm pretty active.)
I'm pretty sure my brain is mostly filled with song lyrics.
I like dogs as well.
Oh, yea and I'm from Boston.
